Married women are the necks that that will help their husbands to carry the homes or they will be pains in their necks. They ought to be the home makers not home wreckers. They suppose to gladden their hearts by their words and actions not to break their hearts and dispatch them to early graves. A good wife must SLAP her husband every day. S=SUBMIT TO HIM. Submitting to your husband does not mean you will be a doormat or an individual with an identity. It simply means that you’re a godly woman that recognized God given authority. If you can leave your parents and adopt his surname and live with him, then see him as your leader. You may be more educated, wealthier and more religious but obey God that asks you to submit to him. L=LOVE HIS FAMILY MEMBERS. Some In-laws can behave like outlaws but true love conquers all injustice and persecutions. A wife that truly accepts, love and care for the family members of her husband will live long in that home and will always have the respect of her husband. Love them till it hurts. A=ASSIST HIM. God told Adam that he will give him a HELPER. A helper also means assistant, aide, helpmate, helpmeet, deputy, auxiliary, right-hand woman, coworker, workmate, teammate, associate, colleague and partner. Help him emotionally, spiritually and financially. Some women who earn more than their husbands are stingy and selfish. Others refuse to work or do business in order to help the man. Once again, God says to Adam “ I will give you a helper” not an ATM CARD or someone that stays at home all day watching films on television. P=PAMPER HIM. All men are Mama’s boys. Treat him like your first boyfriend. Pamper him with tender loving care. Talk to him with love and respect. Correct him with affection and never nag or criticize him all the time. Know how and when to prepare his best foods. Make his birthday and the wedding anniversary a celebration of love. Shower him with gifts like underwear, singlet, aftershave creams and perfumes. Never ever slap him but remain pretty and presentable to him as his own PRINCESS. Never forget: ”A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.”- Proverbs 14:1. MAY GOD BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE.
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I have been asked several times why I choose writing poetry and motivating people. Well, my answer is simple: If you find yourself in my side of life, you'll definitely be grateful about the simple things life offers. You'll come to understand that every single day is an opportunity, and a reason to be grateful. I love what I do not because I generate a flow of income from it, but because in what I do, I can define my life and at the same time give meaning to someone elses life. As a poet my perception to life and the things that happen around me is quite endearing. I see life from the angle of possibilities. "Having overtime understood that drooling over situations never change the results, I choose to be optimistic at all levels and sphere of life." Born into a humble background, where my Destiny helper took the pains of seeing me through school as his last born and integrate me into his blissful family. gave me quite the necessary lessons I needed to become the man I have grown to be. Life is simply amazing when you see situations as a class and a needed lesson. I am simply an observer, I try my best to sketch out my tomorrow from my today's views. As a motivator, I see every experiences as a needed tool to help my friends, acquaintance and the entire society towards making the right choices. When you appreciate the person you have become, you can easily define your life's journey from where you came from, having a clear vision and understanding of your desired destination. Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life (we all have a purpose), it means digging deep into your childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped you... good and bad. It means realizing what your beliefs are and living by them. The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfillment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment! The journey however is not always an easy road. The journey includes fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life. I like to refer to it as reshuffling of the mind, your emotions and your surroundings (including the people in your life). It requires making some tough decisions and sticking to them. My journey so far has seen me cut people out of my life. I call them the “takers.” They were takers because I allowed them to be and it wasn’t until I realized that many of these relationships were one-sided — self- discovery — that I decided to cut them out. It has also seen me completely change the course of my life and start to follow my true passion and purpose (poetry and motivation). I have also started to set intentions and no longer have expectations from others — okay... this one is really hard for me and it’s a work in progress — but instead I have started to look within for answers. I’ve had several set backs along the way and I have no doubt I will have many more but, I’m not giving up. What I know for sure is that the journey is worth taking. I am slowly becoming my true self, more aware and more tolerant. I am learning how to pay attention to my feelings and understand myself better. What I know for sure is that I have had several unrealistic expectations, which have set up for disappointment. Apparently because I lie to myself. Why do we do this? Why do we lie to ourselves? And more importantly, why do we allow ourselves to get away with it? When someone else lies to me and I find out about it I freak out. “How dare he lie to me? Does she think I’m stupid?” but, we lie to ourselves profusely and even cover up our own lies by accepting them as truth in order to reassure ourselves that it’s okay!!! What I know for sure is that being true to my feelings and accepting the poet and motivator in me and also acknowledging him as well as validating him has released so much fear in me. It has released my fear of not being good enough as well as my fear of not living up to the expectations I set for myself. What I know for sure is that we are usually our own worst enemy. We hold ourselves back in so many ways and accepting who I am, helps me move away from that pattern. The freedom you will feel within yourself starts when you accept the person you are or have become without being bias. However, the universe will give you back in rewards when your passion and obsession for who you are and what you believe in supercedes the challenges and discouragement that comes from your distrators. View all posts by boazolaosebikan