1. Dating has to be between two born again people only (2 Corinthians 6:14-17). 2. A believer may enter a relationship only IF they intend to get married. In other words, dating has to lead to marriage. But if the believer is not intend to marry, THEY MUST NOT DATE AT ALL. We don’t condone FORNICATION HERE. We don’t live like people of this world who date for a short time and then move to the next person. 3. A believer may only get to into a relationship if they know Gods plan for their life are complete and satisfied in Him while they are single. It is not wise for a believer who is not fulfilled in the Lord and does not yet know himself / herself in the Lord to get involved in dating. 4. A believer must first pray before getting involved when they feel its time to start dating and that God has release them. They must pray for God’s guidance and wisdom for the right person. The right person will fulfill God’s plan for both of your lives with. The bible does NOT show God designation a specific person you must marry (soulmate), but it show that you may enter marriage with one person you love as long you are born again (2 Corinthians 7:39-40) However, God knows the kind of person you marry so that you’ll fulfil His purpose successfully and sometimes He even chooses partners for us as a loving parent who wants the best for His children. Therefore it is wise for a believer to seek God before entering into a relationship, wait for God’s time and not to hurry. At the right time, God will free him/her to start dating. 5. A believer must not just enter a relationship because of boredom or loneliness, but must enter under God’s guidance and time 6. A believer must not just consider the outward appearance of a person of a person when start dating, but they must make sure that they date one who loves and is zealous for the Lord. 7. Sex before marriage is not allowed when dating or actions that could lead there. Sex before marriage is called fornication in the bible (1cor 6:9-12 ; 2cor 7:35-36) 8. Believers in a relationship must build their spiritual lives together; they must have proper foundation for their spiritual lives. This will help ground them in their love life. 9. A believer must be in a relationship with just one person at a time and remain faithful to that person. 10. Believers must let their spiritual leaders know when they get into a relationship.
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I have been asked several times why I choose writing poetry and motivating people. Well, my answer is simple: If you find yourself in my side of life, you'll definitely be grateful about the simple things life offers. You'll come to understand that every single day is an opportunity, and a reason to be grateful. I love what I do not because I generate a flow of income from it, but because in what I do, I can define my life and at the same time give meaning to someone elses life. As a poet my perception to life and the things that happen around me is quite endearing. I see life from the angle of possibilities. "Having overtime understood that drooling over situations never change the results, I choose to be optimistic at all levels and sphere of life." Born into a humble background, where my Destiny helper took the pains of seeing me through school as his last born and integrate me into his blissful family. gave me quite the necessary lessons I needed to become the man I have grown to be. Life is simply amazing when you see situations as a class and a needed lesson. I am simply an observer, I try my best to sketch out my tomorrow from my today's views. As a motivator, I see every experiences as a needed tool to help my friends, acquaintance and the entire society towards making the right choices. When you appreciate the person you have become, you can easily define your life's journey from where you came from, having a clear vision and understanding of your desired destination. Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life (we all have a purpose), it means digging deep into your childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped you... good and bad. It means realizing what your beliefs are and living by them. The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfillment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment! The journey however is not always an easy road. The journey includes fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life. I like to refer to it as reshuffling of the mind, your emotions and your surroundings (including the people in your life). It requires making some tough decisions and sticking to them. My journey so far has seen me cut people out of my life. I call them the “takers.” They were takers because I allowed them to be and it wasn’t until I realized that many of these relationships were one-sided — self- discovery — that I decided to cut them out. It has also seen me completely change the course of my life and start to follow my true passion and purpose (poetry and motivation). I have also started to set intentions and no longer have expectations from others — okay... this one is really hard for me and it’s a work in progress — but instead I have started to look within for answers. I’ve had several set backs along the way and I have no doubt I will have many more but, I’m not giving up. What I know for sure is that the journey is worth taking. I am slowly becoming my true self, more aware and more tolerant. I am learning how to pay attention to my feelings and understand myself better. What I know for sure is that I have had several unrealistic expectations, which have set up for disappointment. Apparently because I lie to myself. Why do we do this? Why do we lie to ourselves? And more importantly, why do we allow ourselves to get away with it? When someone else lies to me and I find out about it I freak out. “How dare he lie to me? Does she think I’m stupid?” but, we lie to ourselves profusely and even cover up our own lies by accepting them as truth in order to reassure ourselves that it’s okay!!! What I know for sure is that being true to my feelings and accepting the poet and motivator in me and also acknowledging him as well as validating him has released so much fear in me. It has released my fear of not being good enough as well as my fear of not living up to the expectations I set for myself. What I know for sure is that we are usually our own worst enemy. We hold ourselves back in so many ways and accepting who I am, helps me move away from that pattern. The freedom you will feel within yourself starts when you accept the person you are or have become without being bias. However, the universe will give you back in rewards when your passion and obsession for who you are and what you believe in supercedes the challenges and discouragement that comes from your distrators. View all posts by boazolaosebikan