WHEN TO BE SILENT

. . . The Bible 1. Be silent In the heat of anger – (Prov 14:17) 2. Be silent When you don’t have all the facts – (Prov 18:13)
3. Be silent When you haven’t verified the story – (Deut 17:6) 4. Be silent If your words will offend a weaker person – (1 Cor 8:11) 5. Be silent When it is time to listen – (Prov 13:1) 6. Be silent When you are tempted to make light of holy things – (Eccl 5:2) 7. Be silent When you are tempted to joke about sin – (Prov 14:9) 8. Be silent If you would be ashamed of your words later – (Prov 8:8) 9. Be silent If your words would convey the wrong impression – (Prov 17:27) 10. Be silent If the issue is none of your business – (Prov 14:10) 11. Be silent When you are tempted to tell an outright lie – (Prov 4:24) 12. Be silent If your words will damage someone else’s reputation – (Pro 16:27)
13. Be silent If your words will damage a friendship – (Prov 16:28) 14. Be silent When you are feeling critical – (James 3:9)
15. Be silent If you can’t say it without screaming it – (Prov 25:28) 16. Be silent If your words will be a poor reflection of the Lord or your friends and family – (1 Pt 2:21-23)
17. Be silent If you may have to eat your words later – (Prov 18:21) 18. Be silent If you have already said it more than one time – (Prov 19:13) 19. Be silent When you are tempted to flatter a wicked person – (Prov 24:24) 20. Be silent When you are supposed to be working instead – (Prov 14:23) “WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES” – (Prov 21:23). “BE STILL, AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD” (Ps 46:10)

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life doesn’t question your inabilities

It only questions your doubts. Almost all our achievers were incapable towards their achievements. Apples computers was founded by a man, Steve Jobs who dropped out of school only after six months of schooling and was financially incapable to start the company with his friend. Thomas Edison never went to school. Bill Gates was another drop out. Abraham Lincoln was born in a one room farm cabin house. Winston Churchil was the worst student at his time that his teachers doubted his future. Phil Emegwali, the computer giant who was the internet forerunner came to America early 70’s and was jobless and homeless. We all are incapable by merely looking at eachother but when you look inside yourself, you will see all possibilities waiting. Kimberly Anyadike, the 15 year old Nigerian born in U.S dazzled the world when she became the youngest pilot through after school program. What did she say when experts doubted her before the world record breaking fleet? She said, “Put it on me, I have broad shoulders”. Dear, you can inspite what lies on the outside. Deborah Cox was born without two hands but she flies aircraft today your world ends when you see an end. But the door to your future remains open the moment you look at the mountains and believe within you that this is where you are going to climb through. And you will.

ARE YOU WINNING SOULS FOR JESUS OR GETTING CUSTOMERS FOR YOUR PASTOR

I Corinthians 3:6. I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase. So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase. FACTS souls are won to the church by God through his word and this could be any body anytime, or anywhere WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED TO A CHURCH IF THE PASTOR GAVE A TARGET TO THE OTHER PASTORS UNDER HIM THAT A PARTICULAR AMOUNT OF SOUL MUST BE BROUGHT INTO THE CHURCH ELSE THEY WILL BE REMOVED. souls are won when the teachings in the church is sound and well rooted in the word of God CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED WHEN THE PASTOR REFUSED TO CORRECT MEMBERS ON INDECENT DRESSINGS IN THE CHURCH souls are added when the audience repented after life transforming messages WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED WHEN PEOPLE ARE CLAPPING AND BLOWING WHISTLES DURING PASTOR SERMON souls are won to Jesus when people listened to songs that draws their heart to repentance and faith in God WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED WHEN MEN ARE LUSTING AT HALF NAKED DRESSED CHOIRISTERS WHO ARE IS MINISTERING ON THE ALTAR souls are won to Jesus when the pastor preaches more about eternity and repentance than prosperity WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED WHEN THE ONLY THING THAT YOU HEAR EVERY TIME IS MIRACLE, PROSPERITY, HEALING, BREAKTHROUGH. souls are won when invited ministers are coming to teach sound doctrine WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED WHEN COMEDIANS TAKES OVER THE SERVICE souls are added when offering or tithe are collected according to the scriptures WHILE CUSTOMERS ARE ADDED IF YOU ARE COLLECTING ALL SORT OF OFFERING NOT TRACEABLE TO THE BIBLE YOU ARE A CUSTOMER ….IF you are not growing spiritually and pastor made you deacon The church Knew you are divorce and remarried and still ordain you their treasurer you are customers if you are reported by UNBELEIVERS and the pastor refused to correct you because your tithe is one of the biggest in the church. ARE YOU A CUSTOMER OF A PASTOR OR A SOUL WON TO JESUS AND THE KINGDOM OF GOD ? shallom.

DEAL WITH IT

– DEAL WITH IT Everyone in life wants the good part of living; the fun, the progress, the prosperity and pleasure. Everyone wants to be happy and successful. Everyone hopes for the good and rejects the bad, everyone wants the blessings and the ease of access; no one likes to struggle and give so much to obtain the good they want out of life. Many of us want life to be exclusively easy and rosy; no bad just good. May I say this morning that this kind of mindset and desire is absolutely a fantasy? Life is not designed that way. Good and bad is the name of the game. The good and the bad are inter related, you can’t access the positive without experiencing the negative if not; you will destroy the positive. The negative exist to develop your capacity to handle and manage the positive effectively. The negative, no matter how much you hate it, serves to prepare your body, soul and spirit to cope, manage and even improve on the positive side of life. You can’t appreciate love if you’ve not experienced rejection. The pain of rejection will make you value a relationship with someone who really loves you, and you won’t take the person or the relationship for granted. You can’t appreciate food unless you’ve really suffered hunger. Having something to eat every time, if you’ve never gone through a season of hunger can make you wasteful and insensitive to those who have nothing to eat. If you’re lucky not to have experienced a season of delay in childbirth as a married woman, you may never really appreciate the honour and fulfilment of motherhood. If you’ve never experienced a season of joblessness, you may not really respect or appreciate your employer. If you’ve never failed in business, you won’t really respect or think much of those who are doing well in business. If your mother is still alive and well you would never appreciate the blessing of having her around; some of us can tell what it means to lose your mother to death; you feel so vulnerable and uncovered. If you’re lucky to still have your mother alive; treat her right and nice, if you don’t, you may regret it when she’s gone. The pain in life, the hurt in life, the negative in life doesn’t exist to destroy us, oh no, it’s actually there to enable us appreciate, value, and preserve the good we have. The negative also inspires in us the passion and will to become creative and innovative. The best inventions ever recorded occurred in the time of war, when survival became the single most important thing. When you’re in pain, under pressure, going through stuff, your brain is activated to think and become creative – the need to find a solution makes you a thinker and brings to the fore your solution mindedness. That’s why managers of startup businesses are often more diligent, sacrificing, meticulous and aggressive than managers of well established businesses. Managers of startups are constantly faced with the threat of failure and intense competition from established rivals; so they think more, become more creative and amiable to customers – they must survive! Isn’t it unfortunate how some of the most respected and well branded new generation banks in Nigeria today for example have degenerated so much that they have no respect or value whatsoever for their individual account holders? You need to visit many of their branches and see individual account holders in queues waiting and waiting for attention and service from these bank staffs; that are unfortunately indifferent to the plight of these customers standing and frustrated. These so called bankers are usually snooty and carry an air of superiority over customers with disdain in their attitude and service style. Their systems are always down; forever hanging or very slow, their ATM service points usually have very long queues because many are temporarily unable to dispense cash; yet the bank employees are so unmoved and care less about how customers feel. For these banks it wasn’t like that when they started, then, the customers were extremely important and precious; the motive then I believe, was essentially to woo customers away from old generation banks not because they really believed in any customer service philosophy or concept; now that they have enough customers, that customer service orientation has become a matter of lip service. Individuals and organisations never value or appreciate what they have until they go through the negative experience of a major loss. I’m convinced a sudden collapse of these careless new generation banks is a necessary negative that will teach future managers how not to treat customers – and I dare say this sudden collapse is imminent. This is because individuals also own the corporate accounts and with time this misconduct will spread to corporate account holders; it’s a matter of word of mouth, it’s a matter of time, advertising won’t help anymore; branding will also fail because you can’t successfully brand a bad product. Negative experiences are hence, important for great and positive ideals, concepts, businesses, and possessions to be cherished, valued, sustained and built upon. Negative is necessary for positive to thrive. The challenge however, is the fact that many of us don’t understand the relevance and importance of a negative experience. A negative experience or a temporary setback in your life or career is not intended to stop you; it’s actually supposed to make you better. It’s suppose to fire up in you, quality thinking, creativity and innovative reasoning that will make you surge forward and achieve your dreams, goals and desires. Sadly many of us without this understanding have stopped on our journeys and progressions for many years at the point of a negative experience. We have pitched a tent at the point of our refining, grooming and training; thinking it’s the end of the race or the end of our journey. We have decided to settle in and adapt to that negative and average juncture in life because we think it’s the end of our road. May I say to you this morning my friend that you’re not at your end yet, your journey is not over my friend, you’re just getting warmed up? You have all the power, wisdom, creativity, ability and potential to still move on and reach your destination. That negative experience is not meant to stop you, it’s meant to build you, strengthen you and prepare you for the next level of success and greatness. The negative experience is to toughen you to handle the pressure that comes with every new glory, greatness and responsibility. Don’t settle for less, you have much more in you than you can imagine. My dear friend you are indeed better and greater than the bad experience, it happened to you, you didn’t happen to it; hence you’re greater than it! You’re the superior one, that bad experience is too small to stop you – so what if you failed the exams, write a tougher one and pass, so what if you got fired from that job, get a better one, so what if your husband left you or your wife left you, come on get up, inspire yourself and encourage yourself, you were alive and well and happy before you met him or her don’t let that loser stop your life and mess up your rhythm. There are millions out there much better, and finer, and nicer, and kinder and warmer, and funnier, and trendier, and more intelligent and more successful and more responsible and more God fearing who would do anything to have you in their lives. The whole feeling of rejection is all in your mind, the fact that someone rejects you simply indicates they don’t know what good quality is hence, they never really deserved you in the first place, forget the past, start afresh, treat yourself well and move on to your next out of this world experience of love and good living. Don’t let it affect your work, your productivity, performance and professionalism. Concentrate on your career and become somebody, don’t let emotional setbacks destroy your whole life especially success in career. Never build permanent structures with temporary people. You are the only permanent person in your live – no one else. My dear friends learn from the negative and move into a greater positive. Think of your pain, your hurt, your disappointment, your failures and that bad situation, that negative experience this morning, speak to it and say, I’m bigger than you, you’re not bigger than me, you can never stop me, I will stop you, you can’t hold me back, I am leaving you behind, you’re here to make me better, not to stop me from being better, I’m moving forward, my life is indeed richer, I welcome me, into a new world. Enjoy your day.

BECAUSE YOU LOVE ME

-BECAUSE I LOVE THEM Many times we find ourselves in situations that are seemingly beyond our control. We want to survive; we want to remain alive and well so we do almost anything to guarantee the basic needs of life including food, clothing, shelter, security, education and the likes. We work hard, struggle daily within all the constraints of our socioeconomic environment and we keep our heads afloat to cater for our families and loved ones. It’s usually not so easy, but it’s necessary. A lot of men today are working very hard for long hours with employers they don’t like in employments they don’t fancy within terms and conditions that are not favorable, yet they stick in there for the sakes and love for their families. We all have dreams; we want to dress well, drive nice cars, own apartments of our own, train our kids in the best schools, go on vacations and be relevant and confident socially too. We all need money to achieve all these and be secured. We need money. That was the spirit that was the driving force for Henry when he took up an employment with a sales and distribution company with headquarters in Lagos. The company was into the sales of building materials and they had sales depots in major cities across the country. Henry worked for this successful establishment owned by a very rich business man popularly known as chief. Chief started small but has over the years grown his business into a mega one. He’s a major distributor for many manufacturing companies and enjoys sales exclusivity of some unique building materials from top notch manufacturers around the world. Chief was in his late fifties. Henry secured employment with this establishment after three years of job hunting. For him it was a great relief, being in the labour market is not a piece of cake when you have a wife and kids to eat and the family is solely financed by a wife who earns a meager income as a primary school teacher. Henry; employed as a sales man resolved to put in his best to secure his job and also enjoy frequent promotions leading to higher income. He worked hard, very hard, from AM to PM, come rain come shine, driving all around looking for sales opportunities and closing mega sales. He was doing well; he caught the attention of chief, the business owner very quickly with the numbers he was delivering. Henry was a star staff, a super sales man. He was doing well. The issue began when he was a recipient of the staff of the year award. It was a ceremony that required him bringing his family, and for the first time, Chief saw Henry’s wife and was impressed. After the event, Chief began to pay attention to Henry. He would call him personally and discuss both official and unofficial matters with him. Subsequently, Chief invited Henry to come have dinner at his house insisting he brings his wife along. Henry felt honored and he went with his wife Felicia. It was an interesting and enjoyable dinner. It was just with Chief as his whole family had travelled to the village for an important coronation; Chief was to join them later that evening by flight. Chief, Henry and Felicia his wife spoke for a long time, shared so much information about life, marriage, family, finance, relationships, and success. Chief told his story; how he started rough and small till he became this magnificent. They ate; very fantastic meal. About ten days later, Chief visited Henry and his wife at their residence. It was a surprise visit. Henry felt quite honored, he was delighted, in his opinion this was a recognition and honor based on his performance and commitment to work. He spent less than ten minutes with them then left; however before he left he gave them a cash gift of a hundred thousand naira cash. The couple was so grateful. After a month, Henry was issued a transfer letter to coordinate the sales field in the northern part of the country. He was appointed a regional sales manager and his appointment was with immediate effect. He was not very comfortable with this but he saw it as an opportunity, as a promotion and of course a means to better income. He hated the fact he would be apart from his family most of the time, he however kept it in view to move them subsequently to his state of abode in the northern part of the country. The first few months of this transfer wasn’t very easy for Henry and his family, they missed each other dearly, they would be on the phone on several occasions during the day discussing and sharing on different issues. It was an unfamiliar season for this family. But somehow, they learnt to cope. As the days went by, Henry and his family became accustomed to each other’s absence. Henry began to get used to being by himself and the family adjusted too to his absence. One of Henry’s biggest challenges however was the pressure from members of the opposite sex. After a hard day’s work, going back to his apartment to be all alone made worse his loneliness hence; he picked up the habit of hanging out with the guys after work at different pleasure spots. These pleasure and relaxing venues swarmed with different ladies looking for company and probably guys with cash to throw around that could help their financial situation. And in one of this venues Henry met Doyin a very attractive, humorous young lady who appeared to know what Henry wanted and knew how to fix it. They became friends and began to hang out a lot. Doyin, a graduate in her late twenties had a way with men; she was quite experienced and knew how to bring excitement into every situation no matter how dejecting. Henry liked her because he enjoyed her company and the attention made him feel better and addressed his loneliness. But as we know, with increasing conversation comes intimacy, the duo began to communicate more frequently and share personal stuff more often. With time, Doyin became Henry’s number one confident and companion. Henry of course liked the company of Doyin but knew it was trouble considering the fact they were both lonely and alone as it were, hence anything could happen. One crazy night, after Nigeria won a crucial football match, everyone was happy and celebration was in the air. It was an exciting night and everyone was relaxed and appeared generous with anything and everything. Henry in his jolly mood left the relaxation venue with Doyin and for the first time took her home. It was a bit late; a little past 10pm, so Doyin offered to sleep over at Henry’s place till day break. Doyin was attractive that night as she changed from her outfit into one of Henry’s pajamas. It was a thrilling moment for the duo. They both sat in the living room and watched TV far into the night and by 2AM; Doyin went into Henry’s bedroom to sleep. Henry’s first inclination was to go in to her after a while but you see; Henry is a good guy, straight, principled, with a good conscience; he didn’t. As much as it looked easy for him to do it and no one would find out, he refused to. His head overruled his body and emotions and he slept on the sofa in the living room till day break. Henry felt he had missed his family so much; it’s probably why he’s having the inclination to cheat on his wife. Immediately it was day break, Henry took the first flight to Lagos. It was a Saturday. He arrived home in Lagos that late morning only to be told by his children their mother his wife, travelled two days earlier to go visit him in the north. Henry found this a bit strange, so he called his wife from home in Lagos, she picked up, he asked where she was at and she told him she was at home in Lagos. Henry said nothing. Henry’s wife didn’t return home throughout the weekend. Henry didn’t tell her he was around nor give the children a hint on what was going on. Early Monday morning as Henry got ready and was about to drive out of his premises to the office in Lagos, A silver spirit Land cruiser pulled up in front of his house and, alas his wife came out of the SUV. His boss, Chief had come to drop her off at home before going to the office. Henry said nothing to his wife or his boss; whom were too shocked to react. He went to the office that morning and turned in his resignation letter with immediate effect. He came back home around 11am and met his wife sitting on the bed in the bedroom with her luggage packed. Where are you going he asked? You can’t leave; you have a husband and three kids to take care of. I believe you were weak against him and lacked the moral integrity to remain faithful. My first choice of reaction is to let you go, but I won’t because I live my kids and I love you. Your departure would bring more problems and crisis for everyone especially the kids, I love them and they need you. Let put the whole thing behind us and move forward. Dear friend, would you endure hurt, betrayal and unfaithfulness for the greater good of your children, or you love yourself more and won’t mind the implication of a broken home on your children. She cheated, yes, but I want to assume cheating is more rampant with me yet the wives forgive and endure it because of the kids and the future. Dear friend, you can be as strong as that woman, let it go. Love your kids enough, let maturity and forgiveness prevail. Think it, do it, achieve it and be the ultimate man, it’s all in your mind!

-BECAUSE I LOVE THEM

-BECAUSE I LOVE THEM Many times we find ourselves in situations that are seemingly beyond our control. We want to survive; we want to remain alive and well so we do almost anything to guarantee the basic needs of life including food, clothing, shelter, security, education and the likes. We work hard, struggle daily within all the constraints of our socioeconomic environment and we keep our heads afloat to cater for our families and loved ones. It’s usually not so easy, but it’s necessary. A lot of men today are working very hard for long hours with employers they don’t like in employments they don’t fancy within terms and conditions that are not favorable, yet they stick in there for the sakes and love for their families. We all have dreams; we want to dress well, drive nice cars, own apartments of our own, train our kids in the best schools, go on vacations and be relevant and confident socially too. We all need money to achieve all these and be secured. We need money. That was the spirit that was the driving force for Henry when he took up an employment with a sales and distribution company with headquarters in Lagos. The company was into the sales of building materials and they had sales depots in major cities across the country. Henry worked for this successful establishment owned by a very rich business man popularly known as chief. Chief started small but has over the years grown his business into a mega one. He’s a major distributor for many manufacturing companies and enjoys sales exclusivity of some unique building materials from top notch manufacturers around the world. Chief was in his late fifties. Henry secured employment with this establishment after three years of job hunting. For him it was a great relief, being in the labour market is not a piece of cake when you have a wife and kids to eat and the family is solely financed by a wife who earns a meager income as a primary school teacher. Henry; employed as a sales man resolved to put in his best to secure his job and also enjoy frequent promotions leading to higher income. He worked hard, very hard, from AM to PM, come rain come shine, driving all around looking for sales opportunities and closing mega sales. He was doing well; he caught the attention of chief, the business owner very quickly with the numbers he was delivering. Henry was a star staff, a super sales man. He was doing well. The issue began when he was a recipient of the staff of the year award. It was a ceremony that required him bringing his family, and for the first time, Chief saw Henry’s wife and was impressed. After the event, Chief began to pay attention to Henry. He would call him personally and discuss both official and unofficial matters with him. Subsequently, Chief invited Henry to come have dinner at his house insisting he brings his wife along. Henry felt honored and he went with his wife Felicia. It was an interesting and enjoyable dinner. It was just with Chief as his whole family had travelled to the village for an important coronation; Chief was to join them later that evening by flight. Chief, Henry and Felicia his wife spoke for a long time, shared so much information about life, marriage, family, finance, relationships, and success. Chief told his story; how he started rough and small till he became this magnificent. They ate; very fantastic meal. About ten days later, Chief visited Henry and his wife at their residence. It was a surprise visit. Henry felt quite honored, he was delighted, in his opinion this was a recognition and honor based on his performance and commitment to work. He spent less than ten minutes with them then left; however before he left he gave them a cash gift of a hundred thousand naira cash. The couple was so grateful. After a month, Henry was issued a transfer letter to coordinate the sales field in the northern part of the country. He was appointed a regional sales manager and his appointment was with immediate effect. He was not very comfortable with this but he saw it as an opportunity, as a promotion and of course a means to better income. He hated the fact he would be apart from his family most of the time, he however kept it in view to move them subsequently to his state of abode in the northern part of the country. The first few months of this transfer wasn’t very easy for Henry and his family, they missed each other dearly, they would be on the phone on several occasions during the day discussing and sharing on different issues. It was an unfamiliar season for this family. But somehow, they learnt to cope. As the days went by, Henry and his family became accustomed to each other’s absence. Henry began to get used to being by himself and the family adjusted too to his absence. One of Henry’s biggest challenges however was the pressure from members of the opposite sex. After a hard day’s work, going back to his apartment to be all alone made worse his loneliness hence; he picked up the habit of hanging out with the guys after work at different pleasure spots. These pleasure and relaxing venues swarmed with different ladies looking for company and probably guys with cash to throw around that could help their financial situation. And in one of this venues Henry met Doyin a very attractive, humorous young lady who appeared to know what Henry wanted and knew how to fix it. They became friends and began to hang out a lot. Doyin, a graduate in her late twenties had a way with men; she was quite experienced and knew how to bring excitement into every situation no matter how dejecting. Henry liked her because he enjoyed her company and the attention made him feel better and addressed his loneliness. But as we know, with increasing conversation comes intimacy, the duo began to communicate more frequently and share personal stuff more often. With time, Doyin became Henry’s number one confident and companion. Henry of course liked the company of Doyin but knew it was trouble considering the fact they were both lonely and alone as it were, hence anything could happen. One crazy night, after Nigeria won a crucial football match, everyone was happy and celebration was in the air. It was an exciting night and everyone was relaxed and appeared generous with anything and everything. Henry in his jolly mood left the relaxation venue with Doyin and for the first time took her home. It was a bit late; a little past 10pm, so Doyin offered to sleep over at Henry’s place till day break. Doyin was attractive that night as she changed from her outfit into one of Henry’s pajamas. It was a thrilling moment for the duo. They both sat in the living room and watched TV far into the night and by 2AM; Doyin went into Henry’s bedroom to sleep. Henry’s first inclination was to go in to her after a while but you see; Henry is a good guy, straight, principled, with a good conscience; he didn’t. As much as it looked easy for him to do it and no one would find out, he refused to. His head overruled his body and emotions and he slept on the sofa in the living room till day break. Henry felt he had missed his family so much; it’s probably why he’s having the inclination to cheat on his wife. Immediately it was day break, Henry took the first flight to Lagos. It was a Saturday. He arrived home in Lagos that late morning only to be told by his children their mother his wife, travelled two days earlier to go visit him in the north. Henry found this a bit strange, so he called his wife from home in Lagos, she picked up, he asked where she was at and she told him she was at home in Lagos. Henry said nothing. Henry’s wife didn’t return home throughout the weekend. Henry didn’t tell her he was around nor give the children a hint on what was going on. Early Monday morning as Henry got ready and was about to drive out of his premises to the office in Lagos, A silver spirit Land cruiser pulled up in front of his house and, alas his wife came out of the SUV. His boss, Chief had come to drop her off at home before going to the office. Henry said nothing to his wife or his boss; whom were too shocked to react. He went to the office that morning and turned in his resignation letter with immediate effect. He came back home around 11am and met his wife sitting on the bed in the bedroom with her luggage packed. Where are you going he asked? You can’t leave; you have a husband and three kids to take care of. I believe you were weak against him and lacked the moral integrity to remain faithful. My first choice of reaction is to let you go, but I won’t because I live my kids and I love you. Your departure would bring more problems and crisis for everyone especially the kids, I love them and they need you. Let put the whole thing behind us and move forward. Dear friend, would you endure hurt, betrayal and unfaithfulness for the greater good of your children, or you love yourself more and won’t mind the implication of a broken home on your children. She cheated, yes, but I want to assume cheating is more rampant with me yet the wives forgive and endure it because of the kids and the future. Dear friend, you can be as strong as that woman, let it go. Love your kids enough, let maturity and forgiveness prevail. Think it, do it, achieve it and be the ultimate man, it’s all in your mind!

– YOU CAN’T GIVE WHAT YOU LACK

– YOU CAN’T GIVE WHAT YOU LACK Leadership is not an easy task; you must keep going in the face of opposition, tough challenges and frustrations. At the same time you cannot afford to disappoint, mislead and mismanage those following you no matter how annoying, naughty and treacherous they become. If you succumb to their ploy, you would have failed in delivering your leadership mandate. Leadership is also a selfless venture; your personal interest, pleasure and convenience must frequently be sacrificed in the interest of the vision. You must give up on some things you really want and desire, if you don’t, you may truncate your ability to inspire trust, loyalty and commitment from your followers. Leadership is not easy; it requires a great deal of emotional strength and psychological stability to progress rapidly. You will face all manner of issues, setbacks and challenges on your way. It’s only the tough and strong that survives. Leadership is not for sissies. Many systems, organisations, nations and institutions have failed more out of leadership quagmire than any other factor. Many lives and destinies have been derailed and destroyed because the custodians; the owners lack the capacity to lead themselves appropriately. The inner strength, discipline, patience, maturity, knowledge and focus leadership requires is not deep rooted in many people occupying leadership positions hence, the frequent system failures and personal failures. Rules, ethics, codes of conduct and the knowledge of values can’t keep a leader from faltering, failing or falling; it’s not in the knowledge, it’s in the experience and the ability to do. Leadership naturally puts you in a position where your followers expect you to have answers. Not just answers but the right answers. The challenges your followers face daily is as unique and as varied as their number. There is no one size fits all for all your followers in terms of their desires, ambition, challenges, problems, weaknesses, self-concept, intelligence and strengths. As a good leader, you cannot lead everyone the same way. You don’t lead people the way you like or the way it’s most convenient for you. A good leader will lead people based on individual formation and peculiarity if he’s really interested in building a united team, and bringing out the best in everyone. People are different in their reactions to leadership, when you shout at some subordinates; they become confused, anxious and afraid hence unproductive, however shouting at some other subordinate brings out the best in them. Some subordinates do better when you micro manage them; some are at their best when you give them a free hand. Some subordinates work better under pressure; some buckle under pressure. Some subordinates are very good at separating personal matters from official matters, some find it hard to separate both. An experienced leader ought to be able to discern these peculiarities and deal with each subordinate according to their differences. A good leader cannot keep comparing everyone in his team and expect everyone to be in the moldof his favourite subordinate; he would fail from the start. Leadership perceives, understands and is wise enough to bring out the best in everyone despite the individual differences and weaknesses. Leadership is a tough call. I’ll want to presume this morning that every one of us in career today want to become a leader one day. We of course desire a position at the top – leading a team and being in charge of a group and a project. It’s a good and noble desire, but it is not as easy as it appears. It doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read or training you’ve attended and how many role models you’ve been observing to acquire leadership abilities. The most reliable way to learn leadership and become a good leader is purely through experience. Becoming a good leader is not just an academic exercise; it’s a physical, mental and emotional adventure every potential leader must pass through to succeed. Life issues and experiences are the best teachers of leadership. You can’t fully grasp it until you go through a practical growth and developmental experience. There are certain situations and experiences you need to go through in order to lead well. You cannot advice, counsel and help your subordinates effectively with issues you haven’t gone through yourself. A great leader must have the answers; he must have the correct answers. Many of us are going through very many negative situations and complaining; asking why we have to go through so much and wishing things were different, not knowing we have to go through all these experiences in order to succeed in our leadership roles at the end of the day. Let me cite a very personal and maybe funny example. A few weeks ago my son in primary school came home with an assignment to memorise the times table from one to twelve. It was a tedious experience for him because he had a deadline; hence, he came to me for help. Immediately he said to me he had to memorise his times table my mind went back straight on my own experience in primary school when I had to memorise mine. It was a terrible season for me and I don’t think I’ll ever forget it in my life. I was struggling with long division then, because I didn’t know my times table well so I couldn’t tell immediately, the number of times a figure can divide another and the reminder, so I was failing long division. My father then decided to help me; I didn’t ask for his help, he decided to help me because he didn’t like the look of my arithmetic homework book. I had a major struggle with four times table, seven times table and nine times table. If you were still a student back in the seventies and the eighties, there was this 12 inches, 30 centimeters tick yellow, wooden ruler with a thin metal blade fitted on one side. I still don’t know what the manufacturers were thinking inserting a blade on a ruler but my father had other uses for it. In the process of helping me learn this times table he held this ruler in one hand, as I begin to recite the times table, at every point where I missed one or couldn’t go on because I’ve forgotten, this hard ruler with a blade on the side will come down hard on my skull; Probably to wake up the dying or weak brain. But instead of remembering; I forget completely as I begin to cry from the pain of this ruler hard against my skull. I lose coordination, and my brain will just pack up, then I forget everything. My dad would then get upset and decide to flog me because in his opinion I’m unserious and have refused to learn what he asked me to, believing I was watching Sesames Street instead. If you’re not in my generation, don’t worry about Sesame Street; you can’t understand it. My dad’s style of teaching didn’t work I must confess because till today I don’t know nine times table very well. If you ask me, I’ll begin to recite from the beginning till I get to the figure you’re asking before I can tell you the answer. Unlike my wife, if you ask her 73 times 19 she will tell you the answer in 5 seconds; she’s an engineer. So when my son came and asked for my help with his times table; my first inclination was not to make the mistake my father made; I won’t put my son under pressure, I won’t coerce him and I won’t push him against any deadline. All I said to him was; it is very easy, it just takes patience and practice. I then made him a promise that if he could learn it very well and know everything within a week; I’ll buy him a particular gift he’s been begging for, for several months. Immediately he became excited and motivated. He abandoned everything else and began to memorise. In three days he was ready for me and he delivered all his times table from start to finish without any errors or mistakes. I was happy and impressed and I fulfilled my promise. Because of my bitter experience; i learnt a better way of getting results in my son. Probably if i didn’t go through what i went through with my dad, i may not know how else or a superior way of getting this result. Today my son is better than I with his times table. Excellent Leadership comes with experience. My dear friend, what are you going through today, pain, discouragement, regrets, treachery, failure, betrayal, attacks, and disappointments? – Hey! Don’t take it personal; see everything as a school of leadership. You must go through all these in order to provide correct answers to your followers when they are going through their own stuff. You can’t give what you don’t have. You need the nasty experiences too to be a successful leader. Enjoy your day.

– YOU CAN’T GIVE WHAT YOU LACK

– YOU CAN’T GIVE WHAT YOU LACK Leadership is not an easy task; you must keep going in the face of opposition, tough challenges and frustrations. At the same time you cannot afford to disappoint, mislead and mismanage those following you no matter how annoying, naughty and treacherous they become. If you succumb to their ploy, you would have failed in delivering your leadership mandate. Leadership is also a selfless venture; your personal interest, pleasure and convenience must frequently be sacrificed in the interest of the vision. You must give up on some things you really want and desire, if you don’t, you may truncate your ability to inspire trust, loyalty and commitment from your followers. Leadership is not easy; it requires a great deal of emotional strength and psychological stability to progress rapidly. You will face all manner of issues, setbacks and challenges on your way. It’s only the tough and strong that survives. Leadership is not for sissies. Many systems, organisations, nations and institutions have failed more out of leadership quagmire than any other factor. Many lives and destinies have been derailed and destroyed because the custodians; the owners lack the capacity to lead themselves appropriately. The inner strength, discipline, patience, maturity, knowledge and focus leadership requires is not deep rooted in many people occupying leadership positions hence, the frequent system failures and personal failures. Rules, ethics, codes of conduct and the knowledge of values can’t keep a leader from faltering, failing or falling; it’s not in the knowledge, it’s in the experience and the ability to do. Leadership naturally puts you in a position where your followers expect you to have answers. Not just answers but the right answers. The challenges your followers face daily is as unique and as varied as their number. There is no one size fits all for all your followers in terms of their desires, ambition, challenges, problems, weaknesses, self-concept, intelligence and strengths. As a good leader, you cannot lead everyone the same way. You don’t lead people the way you like or the way it’s most convenient for you. A good leader will lead people based on individual formation and peculiarity if he’s really interested in building a united team, and bringing out the best in everyone. People are different in their reactions to leadership, when you shout at some subordinates; they become confused, anxious and afraid hence unproductive, however shouting at some other subordinate brings out the best in them. Some subordinates do better when you micro manage them; some are at their best when you give them a free hand. Some subordinates work better under pressure; some buckle under pressure. Some subordinates are very good at separating personal matters from official matters, some find it hard to separate both. An experienced leader ought to be able to discern these peculiarities and deal with each subordinate according to their differences. A good leader cannot keep comparing everyone in his team and expect everyone to be in the moldof his favourite subordinate; he would fail from the start. Leadership perceives, understands and is wise enough to bring out the best in everyone despite the individual differences and weaknesses. Leadership is a tough call. I’ll want to presume this morning that every one of us in career today want to become a leader one day. We of course desire a position at the top – leading a team and being in charge of a group and a project. It’s a good and noble desire, but it is not as easy as it appears. It doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read or training you’ve attended and how many role models you’ve been observing to acquire leadership abilities. The most reliable way to learn leadership and become a good leader is purely through experience. Becoming a good leader is not just an academic exercise; it’s a physical, mental and emotional adventure every potential leader must pass through to succeed. Life issues and experiences are the best teachers of leadership. You can’t fully grasp it until you go through a practical growth and developmental experience. There are certain situations and experiences you need to go through in order to lead well. You cannot advice, counsel and help your subordinates effectively with issues you haven’t gone through yourself. A great leader must have the answers; he must have the correct answers. Many of us are going through very many negative situations and complaining; asking why we have to go through so much and wishing things were different, not knowing we have to go through all these experiences in order to succeed in our leadership roles at the end of the day. Let me cite a very personal and maybe funny example. A few weeks ago my son in primary school came home with an assignment to memorise the times table from one to twelve. It was a tedious experience for him because he had a deadline; hence, he came to me for help. Immediately he said to me he had to memorise his times table my mind went back straight on my own experience in primary school when I had to memorise mine. It was a terrible season for me and I don’t think I’ll ever forget it in my life. I was struggling with long division then, because I didn’t know my times table well so I couldn’t tell immediately, the number of times a figure can divide another and the reminder, so I was failing long division. My father then decided to help me; I didn’t ask for his help, he decided to help me because he didn’t like the look of my arithmetic homework book. I had a major struggle with four times table, seven times table and nine times table. If you were still a student back in the seventies and the eighties, there was this 12 inches, 30 centimeters tick yellow, wooden ruler with a thin metal blade fitted on one side. I still don’t know what the manufacturers were thinking inserting a blade on a ruler but my father had other uses for it. In the process of helping me learn this times table he held this ruler in one hand, as I begin to recite the times table, at every point where I missed one or couldn’t go on because I’ve forgotten, this hard ruler with a blade on the side will come down hard on my skull; Probably to wake up the dying or weak brain. But instead of remembering; I forget completely as I begin to cry from the pain of this ruler hard against my skull. I lose coordination, and my brain will just pack up, then I forget everything. My dad would then get upset and decide to flog me because in his opinion I’m unserious and have refused to learn what he asked me to, believing I was watching Sesames Street instead. If you’re not in my generation, don’t worry about Sesame Street; you can’t understand it. My dad’s style of teaching didn’t work I must confess because till today I don’t know nine times table very well. If you ask me, I’ll begin to recite from the beginning till I get to the figure you’re asking before I can tell you the answer. Unlike my wife, if you ask her 73 times 19 she will tell you the answer in 5 seconds; she’s an engineer. So when my son came and asked for my help with his times table; my first inclination was not to make the mistake my father made; I won’t put my son under pressure, I won’t coerce him and I won’t push him against any deadline. All I said to him was; it is very easy, it just takes patience and practice. I then made him a promise that if he could learn it very well and know everything within a week; I’ll buy him a particular gift he’s been begging for, for several months. Immediately he became excited and motivated. He abandoned everything else and began to memorise. In three days he was ready for me and he delivered all his times table from start to finish without any errors or mistakes. I was happy and impressed and I fulfilled my promise. Because of my bitter experience; i learnt a better way of getting results in my son. Probably if i didn’t go through what i went through with my dad, i may not know how else or a superior way of getting this result. Today my son is better than I with his times table. Excellent Leadership comes with experience. My dear friend, what are you going through today, pain, discouragement, regrets, treachery, failure, betrayal, attacks, and disappointments? – Hey! Don’t take it personal; see everything as a school of leadership. You must go through all these in order to provide correct answers to your followers when they are going through their own stuff. You can’t give what you don’t have. You need the nasty experiences too to be a successful leader. Enjoy your day.

– CAN YOU TAKE IT?

This true story is actually my own experience and I’d like to share with you for lessons that I think we all can learn from it. Very prominent is the campaign for love and advocacy for people to show love to one another. Various advocacy groups, religious organizations, role models and opinion leaders keep emphasizing the need for love in our societies and the entire world. Many entertainers, music artiste, every one with a voice keep hammering on the need for us to love and care for each other. ‘One love’, ‘I love you’ and statements around love are prominent in movies in music and write ups and many creative works. The world is indeed in need of love, everyone wants to be loved, but strangely and lately I began to realize that as much as we preach and teach and campaign for and about love many of us don’t know how to accept love. This may sound really surprising but it’s what I’ve discovered, people can’t handle it when they see real and genuine love. When you go out of your way to demonstrate love or show care to anyone, the first conclusion of the person is, there is something you’re looking for. They do not believe or think it is possible for anyone to give without expecting back. For many they are sure life is a matter of give and take; you give something to get something hence there is nothing like real unconditional love. The matter has so degenerated to a point where even things as inconsequential as a compliment cannot be received without suspicion. A gentleman sees a lady looking well dressed, he pays her a compliment, she may say thank you but in her mind the default thinking is what is he looking for, what does he wants, ha! Me I’m married or, or I already have a relationship or worse still he’s not my type and almost immediately their thinking is expressed in their attitude. A man opens a door for a lady to come in or exit probably at a restaurant, she may say thank you, but the default thinking is ‘na wah, why is he feeling like a gentleman, he wants to impress me? I’m not impressed’ she can’t see sincerity in the gesture because it’s so hard for people to accept kindness without thinking there’s a catch in it. A guy drives a lovely car to a place and a lady he doesn’t know compliments the car, probably saying something like, ‘I love your car’, the default thinking in the man’s mind is hmmm, she’s tripping, she wants me, she wants to eat my money, okay lets go there and he would try to take advantage of the compliment to see how he can probably date or sleep with the lady believing he can pay her for it. A guy enters a room and some lady says to him stuff like, ‘you’re always looking nice, or you’re good looking’ his conclusion is she likes me and wants a relationship. Dear friends, there is a problem; we cannot accept kindness without terms and conditions applying. We see the world through a very selfish and self- serving view. We judge people by who we are not who they are. We think everyone is like us and we become suspicious when they begin to act similar to how we would when we’re up to mischief. I shared this experience with members of my mentorship class last Sunday. After my radio talk show on career some months ago, a lady called me and began to weep on the phone. She was complaining bitterly about her career experience; the callousness and insensitivity of her employer. How she would be made to work till as late as 12 midnight not just on official matters but also following her so called madam home to cook and do laundry for the madam and her madam’s baby. Employed as an accountant yet she would go to the market to shop for food stuff, toiletries and soup ingredient for the wife of her boss; a graduate with a masters degree. The worst part of the matter is her very meager salary; much less than fifty thousand a month and the fact this salary would be delayed for as much as 10 days into the following month before it’s paid. This lady had been unemployed for almost 2 years before she got this job hence the fear of resigning was real. She kept enduring. It’s not easy looking for another employment when the one you have hardly allow you time for yourself and other things; working every day from morning till evening on weekdays and weekends. She lamented as she kept weeping. I was touched by her story, but my first advice was that she resigns and recovers emotionally and psychologically first. She said she couldn’t because her mum was late and her dad had suffered a major stroke, she’s the first child hence she has to fend for the whole family, her younger ones were still in school. She was the only working member of the family. She was just twenty five. I was really moved, I wanted to help, so I told her to resign and promised I would send her money every month; about the same amount she was earning currently till she secures another job. After I said that, she became silent. I continued and asked that she came to my office for us to see and discuss further, so that I’d at least confirm her story. Still she said nothing and the phone went dead. After a while I tried calling her but she wouldn’t pick. I’d call again, her line would keep ringing but she’d refuse to pick the call. A couple of days later, she sent me a detailed text, according to her, she thought I was a responsible man the way I spoke and counseled on radio, she said she didn’t know I was like others. She said because she shared her problems with me, I want to take advantage of her. She says she’s a Christian and would never date a married man or sleep around no matter what and she’s sure God would deliver her if I refuse to help her. Initially I was confused but later I understood the problem. I had crossed the line. It is very rare for any man to promise a single lady he would pay money into her account every month till she secures a job, just like that without wanting anything back. So when I asked her to come to my office for a discussion, she assumed I wanted an affair with her. She assumed I wanted to state the terms and conditions for the love and support I wanted to offer. This lady didn’t believe it’s possible to be that kind and want nothing in return. It’s not her fault, sincere love is so scarce so when people see it, they can’t recognize it; they can’t handle it. I felt really bad, I truly wanted to help her, her story was so sad and pathetic I wish I could help but she didn’t see it, couldn’t recognize it, and probably has never experienced it, so she believes it doesn’t exist. It’s one thing for people to show love and kindness, it’s another for people to see it, recognize it and accept it in peace. I felt really bad. After my mentoring class, an attendee, a gentleman walked up to me and shared a funny experience too. He said in his office there was a young lady who was a junior staff. She was in her early twenties and was a part-time student at the state university. According to him, this lady was very hardworking and diligent. She was focused and appeared to know exactly where she was going. He said he liked her spirit and attitude to work, but it was obvious she wasn’t from such a wealthy background. He then said, one day he saw her brooding; she was silent, and obviously unhappy. He then asked her what the problem was, she opened up and said she needed money to pay her tuition fees at the state university; the fees had been increased and she needed almost 120 thousand to complete the money. He said it was okay and left her alone. This man told me before the end of work that day, he called the girl and gave her a cheque for one hundred thousand; just to support. The girl was very excited, pleasantly surprised and most grateful. The man told me after about three days, the girl came to his office and said she wanted to again express her appreciation for his kind gesture. He said he was alone in the office and this lady suddenly moved towards him and stopped right in front of his table, she leaned over the table with her elbow; making obvious her boobs through her very low neck chiffon blouse for the man to see and with a funny and mischievous look in her eyes, she simply asked; where and when? He said he was so surprised and embarrassed, but she was even more surprised and embarrassed when he turned her down and said he wasn’t into such that he just felt he could assist and he did it. She said she’s never met a man like him in all her life. She was really shocked. Dear friend, I believe we have a collective responsibility of creating love in our society. Vivid maturity is the ability to give unconditionally. It’s the immature and poor in spirit that believes they must get something to give something. Give unconditionally, care for others and be fulfilled by solving the problems of others when you can. It makes you influential and respected. It is honorable, it makes sense. Think it, do it, achieve it and be the ultimate man, it’s all in your mind!

– WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

Dear friend can i ask you an important question this morning? Why are you working? Think about it; why are you working? Could your number one or only reason be to make ends meet? Are you working to pay bills, meet needs; be comfortable and socially relevant? Why are you working? he second question is why are you working where you’re working? Why are you in that organisation and not somewhere else? Are you there because there was vacancy, you applied and got the job? Are you there because the company has a good corporate image and you want to be a part of the family? Are you working there because the pay is good and salary is regular? Are you working there because it’s flexible and can afford you time for other things like family and all. Hmmm The third question is, your reason for working and your reason for the choice of where you work; is it a short run consideration or a long run consideration? Your reason for working; that reason for working would it still be a good reason in 15, 20 or 25 years from today? The reason for your choice of work place; would it still be valuable, relevant and tenable in 10, 15 or 20 years’ time? The next question is, what are you doing where you’re working? What is your job description? Your role, function and team; why are you there? Did you chose it or it was chosen for you? Why are you a part of that team? What are you doing in that field? Would your reason be justified, tenable and relevant in another 5 to 10 years? Are you gaining anything today from your career apart from money and you’re wasting your time? Are you working purely to make ends meet? Will it surprise you if i say to you this morning that ends never meet with more money? The more money you have the more you want. Your appetite for more in quality and quantity keeps growing as your income is growing hence; you’ll hardly ever succeed in making ends meet by more income. That’s why millionaires and billionaires still borrow from financial institutions; the more money you have, the more you need to sustain a growth rate in business and finance. If then your primary reason is making ends meet, then I’m sorry to announce to you, you can’t work hard enough to guarantee that. Ends don’t meet by hard work or more money; ends meet by financial literacy and personal discipline. Can I ask you another question? If today someone gives you one million dollars; absolutely and entirely yours what will be your first decision? Do i hear a listener say I’ll resign? Is that what you will really do first? Resign? If resigning your employment is one of the things you’ll do if you’re given a million dollars today, then it’s very likely your reason for employment is not by choice but based on situation or circumstance. Situation have most likely coerced you into employment if money is your primary reason for employment. However if experience and exposure is the primary reason why you work, then even a million dollars shouldn’t be enough reason for you to resign.Meaning you have a good purpose for your employment. Can I ask another question? What exactly would you love to do in life? If money is absolutely out of your quest; I mean you have more than enough money, what exactly would you be doing with your life? If for a moment you’re thinking you’ll do nothing but just wake up and sleep and eat and travel and enjoy your life, then you have another think coming because in a short while you will be very tired of such a life. An unproductive life is disaster waiting to happen. A life not creating, not producing, not generating anything shall soon self-destruct. Human beings are not created to do nothing; it’s a frustrating life when you do nothing that’s why I believe many super rich idle people venture into drugs and alcohol and all forms of addiction – they can’t handle living without a need a want and a purpose. A life that only acquires after a while loses taste; it’s only that life that gives that is ever fresh, exciting and interesting. Acquiring things don’t bring enduring satisfaction, after a while those very expensive shoes, clothes, jewelry, cars, electronics, vacations, houses and properties become bland, regular, uninteresting and tasteless. Why are you chasing money? I personally believe money has a spirit? Sounds funny right? I think that’s why it can be acquired through rituals. Truth is when you chase money and prioritise money in all your endeavours you will never have enough. The spirit of money will enslave you and control you and entrap you. The interesting side however, to this is, when you stop chasing money and decide to start creating value, adding value, solving problems and creating solutions, money automatically becomes your slave. Money begins to chase you and serve you and attend to you. A purpose driven career, a value driven career, a solution driven career naturally attracts great wealth! Can I ask the question again? Please why are you working? Why are you working at your work place? Why are you in that team? Is it income and benefits? Do you realise positions, qualifications and professions don’t guarantee wealth and prosperity? I know rich doctors and I know poor doctors, I know rich architects I know poor architects, I know rich lecturers I know poor lecturers, I know rich accountants and I know poor accountants, success is not automatic in any field and riches has little to do with your profession? Can you tell me, where exactly is you place in this world? Why do you exist? Which areas in life are you designed to dominate? Where is your kingdom? Where is your territory? This is not a physical location or a physical territory; I’m talking about that field of endeavour where you are designed to be an authority. The kingdom referred to here cannot be identified by careful observation or look out because your kingdom is within you! Your area of dominance, relevance, assignment, improvement or value contribution in career is a function of what you carry on your inside; your personal passion, interest and preferred field of endeavour. Everyone is born with a soft spot, a liking, a passion or compassion for a vocation, a people or an art. This experience is within. Are you currently fulfilling that purpose in your place of employment? Are you enjoying or enduring your career? If salaries don’t get paid in three to six months would you still be excited and passionate about work and still be fully committed despite that challenge because you love what you do? Or you run out on function until you are recharged with salary? In what way would you want to improve our society and economy? Is your career activated within that preferred field or you’re totally lost in something else? Where exactly is your place in this world? What’s your dream for the society we live in? Are you dominating something somewhere or you’re been dominated and controlled by the spirit of money? Are you in that career because someone you know made money from it and you want to make money from it as well? You can’t copy success, if you lack what it takes to succeed in that field, you can’t succeed there; it’s not about the field its more about what you carry on your inside! What are you looking for in your current place of work, survival or relevance and purpose? If why you work, where you work ,what you do and the team you belong to is at dissonance with your purpose, passion, interest and ambition, dear friend, you are wasting your time and life. Begin to retrace your steps, where did you miss it, get it wrong or got carried away? Start realigning what you’re doing now with what you want to eventually become in future. Let what you do now be relevant and useful in your postpaid employment life. What are you doing in admin if you eventually want to become a sales consultant? What are you doing in procurement if at last you want to be a trainer and HR consultant? What are you doing in corporate affairs if you want to become a production expert? What’s the relationship of your current job as an accountant if eventually you want to be a communication expert? What are you looking for where you’re at? Acquire only relevant and useful experience; stop wasting your time in areas and companies and fields you hate because of money. Don’t be a victim of financial and social insecurity; stand out as the king of your passion and field then exercise authority and dominion. Your kingdom is within you, birth it out! Enjoy your day!