DECISION IS EVERYTHING.

No decision, no vision; no vision, no mission; no mission, no passion for pursuit; no pursuit, no achievement. Decision is an unavoidable factor in life. Whether you realize it or not, you make decisions and these decisions will determine your immediate and latter destiny. Therefore the subject of decision making is worth talking about and particularly making quality decisions. Your decisions will create your habit and your habit will create your future. We make decision every time & everywhere – probably more often than we think. Decision to do something, buy something, give out something; decision to be more time conscious, help someone, change an attitude, save some money etc. This is just to call you into consciousness, so that you can start making decisions deliberately and not unconsciously. Conscious decisions bring predetermined results and unconscious decisions bring shocking results. When your decisions are deliberate you know exactly what lies ahead. I used to know some boys while in high school that would leave school and go to joints, rivers at times to fish or find a place to just while away time. I even followed them once, but never again when I saw the risks involved. Some of these guys didn’t consciously decide for that; they followed friends. Today most of them are nonentities in our community. If anyone asked them then what they desired to become in future, they all would have mentioned things like Engineer, Doctor and Accountant; but they didn’t decide to really become those things neither did they decide to become riffraff. They simply made an unconscious decision that has today landed them in a most shocking ‘shore’ in life. See what Jacob said about his first son Reuben (Genesis 49:3-4): …as unstable as water, you shall not excel… Instability is another word for indecision; looking here and there, never deciding which to grab. In my home town there is a proverb that says, ‘if you chase two mice, you will catch none.’ A man who can’t make decisions is a baby trapped in a man’s body. A wise man said, ‘A man who is afraid to make decisions is a coward. He will die many times before his death. A man who doubts his own decision rips himself of the passion to carry out the decision. He’s worse than a coward’ Successful men are decision makers; they dare to make decisions and stick to them. I love a Bible account in 2Kings 7:1-16 – These 4 lepers changed the fortune of their nation because they could decide. National prophecy was hinging on them and they didn’t mess up. They had options: 1) stay and die of hunger in the lepers’ colony. 2) get back to town where famine was grievous and see if they get food but will eventually die of hunger. 3) get into the camp of their enemies in case they will have mercy on them and feed them or kill them. The 3 options presented death ultimately to these lepers, yet they decided to opt for one. That is decision; and eventually they didn’t die. At times wisdom is not just choosing the best of many good options but choosing the lesser of two evils. This is where many people decide not to decide; and you know indecision is the worst and most cruel decision you can ever make. Life always presents us with options – in business, choice of life partner, house to rent, land to buy, job offer to accept, etc – so we have need to make decisions daily. Many people never make the decisions they have to make; they forget that Decision Is The Forerunner of Vision. No decision, no vision; no vision, no mission; no mission, no passion for pursuit; no pursuit, no achievement.

DANGERS OF INDECISION

Don’t ever resort to making indecision your final decision or live a life of indecision because it has terrible consequences; some of which are highlighted and discussed briefly below. 1. Losses ‘If you chase two mice you will lose both’. That is a proverb to call the indecisive to order. Indecision breaks your concentration and gives you ‘di-vision’. In the long run you will make no impact here and there, thereby losing out in the end. Decision gives precision of focus. 2. Regrets Losses bring regrets. When in the long run you see all you have lost to indecision, you will only join them to sing ‘oh had I know.’ But that shall not be your portion. A young man was a friend to 4 Christian sisters living in the same room. He really wanted one of them but could not decide on time which one. By the time he decided, the one he proposed to said she got engaged six weeks earlier. He later proposed to another one who said a capital ‘NO’ because her roommate had given her gist of how the brother proposed to her. He regretted his slowness, but it was too late. There are matters that require patience and is good to exercise patience where need be; but don’t nickname your slowness as decision making process. 3. Distrust from others No one wants to trust an indecisive man or woman. I once worked for a boss who lost all his major leaders to indecision. Whenever there is something important to do he would postpone decision making. Most of the people who left the company did so because they could not trust their future into the hands of this indecisive boss. People prefer to trust a man who is decisively wrong than one that is never wrong because he will never make a decision. 4. Backwardness Progress is only possible where there is focus and stagnation is certain where there is indecision. Many have lost opportunities to rise because of indecision thereby suffering backwardness. 5. Envy When you allow stagnation into your life by indecision you will certainly envy those who choose to rise by decision. Envy is the response of failures to success. If you must not envy your mates tomorrow take responsibility – be decisive. 6. Blame Indecisive people always blame others for everything happening to them. They assume others are responsible for their failure since they have not decided to succeed against all odds. Only failures play the blame-game; and indecisive people always fail. GOOD DAY. Culled from my book, MAKING QUALITY DECISIONS.

THERE IS NO GLORY WITHOUT A STORY.

I am he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive for evermore, Amen… Revelation 1:18 There is no “going to” without a “going through”. There is no delivery without a conception. There is no destination without a route. There is no product without a process. There is no shining gold without a refining. There is no rain without some dark cloud. The life of every man is sandwiched between a process and a product, between a pain at a time and a profit afterwards, sometimes failures at the beginning and tremendous success at the other side.(1 Peter 5:10) From my keen observation, there are two categories of subconscious misconception that we draw up as humans when we meet other fellows in a particular situation of life. First, if the fellow is making it big, having almost everything working for him, we draw up a conclusion in our mind that he has always been making it and we tend to compare our own lives by asking questions: Why is my life not like the life of this fellow. Is it not the same God that created both of us especially if you are going through some tough times. Second, if the other fellow we meet appears to have his life as the seeming head office of all life’s problems – frustration, failures, hardship etc. We sometimes conclude that that is the way he will forever remain by our attitude and action towards such fellow e.g. we distance ourselves from them directly or indirectly. From our text written above; Jesus said I am He that liveth but before you conclude that I’ve always been living let me also announce to you that I was once dead. By interpretation: I’m he that is successful now but I was once a failure in my life. I’m he that is being celebrated now by all and sundry but I was once an object of ridicule, mockery and rejection by friends and acquittances. I’m he that is fruitful now as a mother but I was once barren like Sarah, Elizabeth and Hanna. I’m he that is now a owner of corporation but may I tell you that I was once looking for job at the doorsteps of every company in town. Every man will need to pass through these two critical stages of life. Jesus went further to say, “And behold, I am alive for evermore.” Every time God turns a man’s story to glory, from being dead to being alive, from being a failure to being a success. If it is God that actually did it then it remains forever because He’s the only and authentic STORY CHANGER. Do you want that unpleasant story turned to glory? I offer you an advice, CONNECT YOURSELF TO THE LIVING GOD TODAY and that story will turn to glory right before your eyes and the eyes of everyone. Until I come your way again next week. Please like, comment and share if you have been blessed. Shalom!

COMPATIBILITY IN COURTSHIP – Part 2

A good recipe for marital disaster will be two incompatible partners. Their union will only end up unveiling the negative sides of both. When I was in primary school there were occasions when we were asked in tests and examinations in English to underline an odd word among four or five words. A good example is this: Crayon. Pencil. Biro. Chair. Tempo. Any intelligent pupil quickly realizes that they are all writing materials except one – Chair. This simply shows that there are things that don’t go together. Even the scripture supports that fact. Solomon said in proverbs that there are three things which go together… (Prov. 30:29) That means there are things that don’t go together; they are not comparable or compatible. So also there are people who can’t go together, be it in friendship or courtship. There are certain people who can’t be compatible with certain other kinds of people. Male – female compatibility is a factor young people and those who love and talk to them must understand; else you’ll end up mixing water with petrol. It will be unfit for drinking and unfit for energy generation. That’s what incompatibility does. It brings out the worst in people. A good recipe for marital disaster will be two incompatible partners. Their union will only end up unveiling the negative sides of both. People begin to draw bad conclusions about both, whereas the underlying problem is incompatibility. As we discuss from day to day, you’ll discover the basic compatibility issues that will help you in your choice of a life partner. Basically compatibility has two types: the resolvable and the non-resolvable. Non-resolvable compatibility has to do with primary and rigid issues of life. Issues and factors that if anyone who wants to date you questions, you will not compromise for anything. A good one will be your faith in Christ. It is like mixing water and fuel. They will never be one. Resolvable compatibility issues are those that can still be resolved mutually with wisdom. This is like mixing water and wine. It will taste like wine but just not as concentrated. ‘Water’ should go with ‘water’, ‘wine with wine’ and ‘fuel with fuel;’ so each couple can give the best to the world and be a blessing to their generation. Share this and bless more people.

COMPATIBILITY IN COURTSHIP – Part 2

A blissful marriage as well as a successful courtship are like buildings, and remember every house is built by some man (Heb. 3:4); so a building is not a miracle, which means successful courtship is not a miracle as well. Buildings don’t just happen. There are processes, so also a blissful courtship won’t just happen. There are processes and principles it must satisfy. Let me repeat for emphasis: A Successful Courtship Is Not A Miracle. God won’t come down to impart your union with success. You have your part to play; facts to find out and put to use if you must enjoy the best of courtship and marriage. That’s why it’s not a miracle. A successful courtship is not an accident; it is not a coincidence. If you are building a relationship that will lead to a beautiful marriage you will know. You can’t be building and not know. How well you build now will determine how blissful it will be; and don’t forget, “as you lay your bed so you’ll lie on it”. A successful courtship places a serious responsibility on those who desire it. You have a part to play. Impartation is not final in making courtship successful. Prayer is not final in making courtship successful. These are important. You can receive gifts by impartation; you can lay hold on inspiration and revelation in prayers. But never forget that wisdom is the ultimate. When you know how to attain success in courtship, then you will maximize impartation and prayers. Basically the youths of today lack knowledge. 21st century youths are religious but very ignorant. That’s why most of our decisions lead us to regrets and tears. The scripture said it right, “my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). They are not destroyed because the devil is more powerful now than before or because God is less powerful; but because knowledge is lacking. Knowledge is power. The more you know and the more you use what you know, the more powerful and successful you will be. Knowledge is light and light dispels darkness any day. Many people in church ‘speak in tongues’ and are still stupid. That you pray and fire falls does not replace knowledge. Prayer and wisdom must go together. The more you know about tearless courtship, successful relationships, the better your chances of having one. I pray that as you read, may you discover truths and lay hold on power to use them. Please understand that everything in life hinges on relationship and association. In fact, whether you will be poor or rich, great or small, little or mighty, all depends on your associations. Such association might be divine, secular or such as is heading for marriage. That’s why understanding the facts about success in relationship is pivotal both to successful marriage and successful living. Have this in mind. You can’t be better than your associations. Your tomorrow is defined by your relationships today. Your life partner will certainly be a member of your clique, class, church or related to someone you know or something along that line. So, even your marital destiny is hinged on your associations; so, mind your association. That’s just an important digression. A successful courtship is one that must mature to marriage. In bible terms, it’s a ‘true’-courtship. When we say something is ‘true’ it has a deep connotation. Forget about dictionary, we are talking scripturally. The scripture says the Word of the Lord has been tested seven times to be ‘true’ (Psalm 12:6). It didn’t become ‘true’ overnight. It’s been tested in several fires before it was declared ‘true’. For a courtship to be ‘true’, there are ‘fire-tests’ it must have been through. A relationship won’t be ‘true’ just because the parties involved are Christians; it won’t be ‘true’, just because the parties involved are prayerful; it won’t be ‘true’ because the parties involved are strong church members, ordained or whatever. It will be ‘true’ if it has gone through the necessary fire-tests and remains strong. The Word ‘true’ means you can tell what its end will be. The psalmist said the Word of the Lord is a statue; meaning it’s rigid, sure, unchangeable; just as a statue. A ‘true’ courtship is one whose end is sure, unchangeable – a blissful marriage. This is the kind of courtship you can vouch for. You just can be sure it will end-up in marriage, because it’s been tested and ‘fired’. A ‘true’ courtship is not trial by error. It’s not an experiment. Relationship in Christendom is not like in the world. It’s not an experiment; that’s why there are litmus tests you must engage before you get too far or to the point of public introduction of your partner. They are tests you must run in secret and with wisdom to determine the workability of the courtship in view. Young people cry over their relationship, because most of them are trial by error. They expend time, emotions and means and in the long run discover it can’t work. That’s why the compatibility tests in this book must be taken seriously, so you’ll not join the list of victims of heartbreak. Please read on with an open heart. Be flexible in your philosophy, theology and beliefs. Many marriage are breaking up today because of compatibility issues that were not resolved in courtship. Be wise if you’re not engaged or you are about getting into it or you are already in one. If you are not married, you can still adjust your marital choice with wisdom. (See u for Part 2 tomorrow) Culled from my book – ROUND-PEG, ROUND-HOLE – D 10 Commandments Of Male-Female Compatibility.

PURPOSE & COMPATIBILITY

If you have height phobia, don’t court a future mountain climber. ‘Can two walk together except they have agreed?’ (Amos 3:3). Two people can’t journey happily together for long except they are going in the same direction. Partners in courtship who don’t have agreement of destination can’t have a good time. If for any reason they do in courtship their marriage will suffer. If love blinds you in courtship, marriage will open your eyes. There must be an agreement of destination. Where are you going, Brother? What do you want to do with the rest of your life? A man who does not know exactly where he’s going is not qualified to take a woman along. A man who can’t tell in clear terms what he’s going to do with his life does not deserve a ‘yes’ from a lady. If you have said ‘yes’ to a man and up till now you have not had a purpose discussion, get back and organize one. Never ‘commit’ until you have discussed and ironed out what you both will do with the rest of your lives and be sure you agree with each other. It will be stupid to get to a Motor-park and enter a vehicle that is not going where you are going. It is even more stupid to go to a park when you are not going anywhere. Why get into courtship when you have not decided where your life is heading? Making a commitment for marriage is like the choice you make when at a Motor-park to travel. You know where you are going, so you are not attracted by fine cars that are not going where you are going. No one decides his destination at the park. Courtship shouldn’t define your purpose. Let your purpose determine your choice of a life partner. The question here is clear: Are We Heading For The Same Or Similar Future? If ‘No’, don’t even start courtship; if you have started, you already have a ‘red light’. If the question of purpose has not been answered, don’t ‘officialise’ the union. Purpose simply addresses your passions, aspirations, callings, decisions and plans for life. As a man, you must look for a lady who will complement your aspiration, passion, calling and goals. Notice your ‘peg-shape’, before you search out a ‘peg-hole’. Never put round peg in a square hole – there may be friction. I knew from teenage that I was going to preach all my life. I met several ladies who loved me, but don’t like the idea of being a pastor’s wife. I didn’t need prayer. I never considered proposing to such. They were Christians, attending church that hold the same beliefs as mine – but that can’t take the place of fulfillment of purpose. I went for a lady who knew she would be the wife of a man of God before she met me. That was not the only litmus test – but one of the most important in my own case. I have no problem today. I am married to a woman who believes in my calling, agrees with me and is fully in support of my visions, even though she pursues her own career. Nothing destroys a family like ‘di-vision’. Division does not mean partners are doing separate businesses or involved in different ventures, but it means there’s no mutual support and agreement. In fact this issue alone can stop answers to prayer. That’s why I advice people never to marry anyone whose job, career, calling they are not convinced they can support. The first discussion in any true courtship must be that of destination. There was this lady those days on campus who had a clear and visible calling on her life. She’s by name Kelly. She fell in love with a serious church guy named Jeed. Everything seemed okay, only that anytime Kelly talks about ‘ministry’ issues, Jeed simply said “well, I am not really interested”. She told me about that and I told her my sincere opinion. If you want to enjoy fulfillment in destiny, leave this man, go for a man from God who will accept, appreciate and encourage your ministry. She still married the man, but today, she has shelved her calling, because her guy’s interest in her calling keeps diminishing. When she gets to God I wonder if she will tell Him a little god called ‘marriage’ made her minimize her calling. You will pay in marriage for every ‘love-blindness’ you permit in courtship. ‘Shine your eyes’. Make up your mind to have a failure-proof marriage. Don’t be ‘over particular’ about jobs – but be particular about ‘passions’, ‘aspirations’ of your spouse; because whatever he or she does will converge at his or her aspiration. If you have height phobia, don’t court a future mountain climber.

SCIENCE & COMPATIBILITY

Medical science has opened our eyes to certain facts which I believe are revelations to rescue this generation from tearful marriages. We don’t have to in the name of spirituality deny realities of our physiological status. The scripture only told us not to accept philosophies and science that go against the Word of God (1Tim. 6:20); but where science opens our eyes to understand the realities of life, then it should be embraced and seen as God’s way of revealing answers to us. Medical compatibility ‘majorly’ has to do with genotype assessment. Consider the story of a classmate in high school; it will shed more light on this: “I had a classmate in high school that suffered from sickle cell anemia. I got to know that his parents were medical practitioners. They had three kids – 2 boys and a girl. The man was ‘AS’ and the Woman ‘AS’. Unfortunately all the children were ‘SS’. They lost their only daughter and were spending so much on the boys because they were having ‘severe’ attacks. My classmate’s parents were never happy. They can’t tell what the future holds for their kids. The two boys alive were looking terribly ill, with stunted growth. They could have avoided this trouble by stopping their courtship, in love and with understanding. If you are ‘AS’ don’t marry ‘AS’, else the chances are that you’ll have AA, AS or SS. It is not that you will have the three. No! Each conception will be one of the three. If you are unlucky to have ‘SS’ each time, you will become a prayer project – stretching your faith for a challenge that could have being avoided by decision. Why waste faith on an avoidable problem? There are prayer points you can erase from your future – please be wise. If your genotype is ‘AS’ or ‘SS’, you are advised to marry someone with genotype ‘AA’. If you go against this advice, you are signing in for a lifetime of family challenge. God wants us to embrace wisdom. Avoid every family problem you can from courtship level. Remember, ‘a wise man sees evil afar off and hides himself; but the foolish will continue to his own destruction’ (Prov. 22:3). If you don’t know your genotype, you are not ready for courtship. When a man asks for your hand in marriage as a lady, one of the questions that must be answered is that of genotype. If he’s not willing to tell you, don’t give him an answer. In fact I recommend that at the inception of dating, go for a fresh genotype test – don’t ever assume and don’t accept ‘words of mouth’ as final. Many church people lie in the name of faith. Kay was courting Folake and they were having a wonderful time until Kay met Folake’s cousin on camp (National Youth Service Camp). He discovered for the first time that Folake was ‘AS’. All along Folake has been telling him she was ‘AA’. He challenged her and Folake said she was expressing her faith – saying she was ‘AA’ when actually she was ‘AS’. Please don’t mistake faith for foolishness. They can be so close at times and difficult to differentiate. We can rid Africa of Sickle cell, if we are wise in our choices. ‘AA’ can marry ‘AS’ or ‘SS’. The worst they will have is a child that is ‘AS’. But ‘AS’ and ‘SS’ should only go for ‘AA’. A single mother lost her three kids within 24 hours – to sickle cell problem. Please secure a happy future for yourself. Marriage is more than ‘I love my partner and my partner loves me’. You must think of the future – else you’ll cry and there will be none to console you. A friend of mine courted a lady for about three years and the day they told their pastor about their love and marriage plans was the day of their bombshell. The Pastor asked for their genotype and they didn’t know it. They rushed for the test and discovered they were both ‘AS’. The Pastor told them the implication as regards child bearing and asked them to go and think. My friend was willing to ride on with faith, but his fiancée was not. They had to break-up. My friend was heartbroken. They were both stupid and had to pay for their stupidity with heartbreak. The question my friend kept asking was “where is faith”? “Can’t faith handle this”? I will rather expend faith on other issues than a ready-made trouble that I can gallantly avoid. The advice I give generally for partners who have possibility of having ‘SS’ offspring and are willing to continue is simple. If truly you have faith then believe God for a change of your genotype, then I will agree with your faith. If your faith can produce now, then I‘ll be certain it may deliver tomorrow. May your children (in the years to come) not wake up in pains and curse you for allowing such when it was in your power to avert it. If you live for today without any thoughts of tomorrow you are a fool. The wise make decisions today that will make tomorrow wonderful. A young man said his parents are both ‘AS’. They married without knowing and today he’s ‘AA’ and his 2 siblings ‘AS’. So he said we shouldn’t overemphasize the issue. I told him never to base his judgment on ‘exceptions’. There are cases that are one out of ten. His parents’ case is one of such. You will play safe basing your assumptions on nine out of ten. We shouldn’t pretend to be ‘blind’ because our parents were ‘blind’ and were not hurt. We can’t because of the sincerity of our parents, commit their errors again, or accept their ignorance in spite of the knowledge available. If we can be medically wise in our choices of life partners, Africa would soon be free of ‘Sickle Cellers’. I need not pray that my kids not be ‘SS’. My choice has determined that for me. You will lie on your bed as you laid it. Don’t close your eyes and walk into doom. I heard of a once married lady who is alone and lonely now; always crying and wishing she could turn back the “hands of time”. She got married to a man who happened to be ‘AS’ like her. They lost their first child to sickle cell anemia. The man’s faith collapsed because the 2nd child is also ‘SS’. He relocated without the wife’s notice. No one knows if he’s remarried or not. Medical science is not of the devil. Take advantage of it.

SPIRITUAL STATUS AND COMPATIBILITY – Part 1

Please know that the worst believer is better than the best unbeliever. If you marry an unbeliever, Satan will be your father-in-law. “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness and What communion has light with darkness” (2Cor. 6:14). I met a young lady who said to me “Pastor, my fiancée is not a Christian but he’s a gentle man. He’s better than most guys in church.” Many Christian youths are in this lady’s shoe. They have that same philosophy or conclusion in their heart. They believe if an unbeliever has good attitudes, he or she is good enough for marriage. Please know that the worst believer is better than the best unbeliever. If you marry an unbeliever, Satan will be your father- in-law. He will have an express access into your home. He will deliberately deal with you since he’s got a legal access into your home. Marrying an unbeliever is putting a custom made door for Satan to enter your home at will. Always remember that Yoruba adage that says “except there’s a crack in the wall the lizard has no access.” “If you break the hedge the serpent will bite you” (Eccl. 10:8). God will never be an in-law to Satan. Once you court or marry an unbeliever, you automatically disown God as your father. Light and darkness can never mix. The presence of one is the absence of the other. If you court or marry an unbeliever you have signed out of light into darkness. Kemmy once courted this tall, slim, easy going guy. When she was asked about his salvation she said the guy would soon start coming to church. That’s not the right answer anyway. Church going and salvation experience are not the same; even though one may lead to the other. The young man actually started coming to church. You know Satan can go to any length to waste the life of a Christian. Kemmy was Satan’s target and he was ready to attend Christian worship services if only he will by that have access to fill her life with regrets and sorrow. They got married and everything was blissful – or so it seemed. Within 2 years another woman had a baby for him and his family insisted she moves in to live with them. Kemmy is now a single mother – back to zero level. Is it not better to marry late and enjoy the marriage for life than to marry early and your joy short lived? Be wise! If you must date or marry an unbeliever, please take your life back from Jesus first. If you court or marry an unbeliever as a Christian you are mocking God and breaking His Word; but don’t forget that if you break His commands, you will be broken. Everyone who did consciously and unconsciously paid for it. Joseph married an Egyptian (though not deliberately) and his name was taken out of the 12tribes of Israel. There is no tribe called Joseph in Israel, only mercy gave his children a place in Israel. Esau married an infidel and lost his birthright. His father and mother were grieved because they knew the spiritual consequences of that (Gen. 26:34&35). Even If Jacob didn’t cheat Esau, Esau can never be God’s choice – because he has no regard for God’s commandments in marriage. Abraham instructed his servant to get a wife for his son Isaac from among his people. In fact he entered a covenant with his servant. He made him swear that he won’t take just any lady as wife for Isaac (Gen. 24:3). God is serious about this. Don’t joke with it. Better be single and have God’s blessings than get hooked up with an unbeliever – because God will take His hands off your life. You will lose favour with God. A young man after a few failed courtships with Christian ladies decided to date an easy going unbelieving girl. He said he will convert her to Christ. You know it is funny how we still think we are powerful enough to make things happen even in our errors. You are not the Holy Ghost, you can’t convert anybody. Your blood can’t save an ant. The best you can do for an unbeliever is to advice, witness and evangelize – you can’t convert them. It’s none of your business. If you are looking for mission fields, go to unbelievers you will work on without selfish interests. Trying to convert someone so that you can marry him or her is the peak of carnality. Such conversions if they happen at all don’t last. If you are like this guy hoping to convert an unbelieving partner, please desist. It’s a venture that will end in failure. If you convert your partner because of marriage, you’ll do the conversion over and over. It may have worked for somebody; it does not mean it’s correct. Don’t follow an error that seems to have become a public testimony; you don’t know and can’t tell what they have been through before the error turned to testimony.

SPIRITUAL STATUS & COMPATIBILITY Part – 2

God has made it clear, “light and darkness can’t co-exist”. You can’t be going against the Bible and hope to use the powers and graces of the God of the Bible; you can’t be disobeying the Word of God and hope to run to the God of the Word in times of trouble. There was a lady I know back in college. She was courting this prosperous pharmacist. Everyone in town knew the man was not a Christian. Many people talked to her, but she refused. Her defense was that the man sponsored her through school. You know it’s funny how we choose the ‘arms of flesh’ and turn our back on God. For many young people, courtship is an idol. It is the only thing they are doing without God’s consent. This lady deceived her pastor, so he joined them, for many years she could not conceive and the man went to impregnate another girl, so he could have children. Why did she not conceive? I don’t know. But one thing is sure; such people usually don’t have the confidence to go to God in prayer for the answers they desire. You can’t bar God out in the ‘rain’ and then invite Him in after the ‘rain’! You shouldn’t expect your car to move if you pour a mixture of water and petrol in the tank. Your ‘marital engine’ is sure to knock, if you cohabit with an unbeliever. The scriptures say for us to separate ourselves (2Cor. 6:17). If you want to be for God, be for Him, full time. You’re either for God or not for Him. Oswald Smith said, “God is either the Lord of all or not Lord at all”. Is God the Lord of your relationship? If you give God the totality of your life, it will help your spiritual alertness. God will be involved in your search for a life partner. He will connect you to the right man or lady. A friend of mine was to date a girl, but God knew my friend didn’t idolize the union. He was still looking up to God and asking “should I continue”? That was even a lady he found in church. In one of his prayers God revealed to him that the lady was an agent of the devil. My friend quickly backed out quietly. The lady was later revealed by God’s fire in a revival programme. She had initiated a few of the ladies in her church. If God is your focus, He will reveal wolves in church wearing sheep’s clothing to you. There are many unbelievers in church who know the doctrines, mysteries and slang – you need God to reveal such; and except you are totally yielded you may be a victim of one of such. Don’t be deceived by activities. That someone sings well does not mean he or she is a Christian. Good preaching even does not equal Christianity. You therefore require a discerning heart; that’s why you need to really be close to God. You must be spiritually alert, that’s the only way you’ll easily know dogs in the midst of the sheepfold, and the goats amidst the sheep camp. When we talk about unbelievers, please note that they are in the church as well as outside the church. Be watchful! There was this chorister in a church I once attended who dated an unbeliever. They were together for probably a few years doing all the usuals unbelievers do. One fateful day the guy decided to follow her to church. He came to church, got converted and became vibrant. A few weeks after his salvation, he called his fiancée and broke up the union. The girl was sad and questioned his decision. He told the girl in plain language that if what he has heard these few weeks is what she’s heard for years and still was dating him before his conversion it means, her Christianity has question mark. He said he has resolved never to marry any girl who won’t love God more than him. The guilt of the lady was multiplied because the guy’s words were an eye opener to her of her idolatry. The man found God and left her. ‘Be not deceived, God is not mocked, whatsoever anyone sows that he shall also reap’ (Gal. 6:7). If you think God will make something good out of your unholy alliance, you might have been ruined like Samson before then. God did make some wonderful sense out of Samson’s errors, but he was ruined. Don’t follow Samson’s example.

SPIRITUAL STATUS & COMPATIBILITY Part – 2

God has made it clear, “light and darkness can’t co-exist”. You can’t be going against the Bible and hope to use the powers and graces of the God of the Bible; you can’t be disobeying the Word of God and hope to run to the God of the Word in times of trouble. There was a lady I know back in college. She was courting this prosperous pharmacist. Everyone in town knew the man was not a Christian. Many people talked to her, but she refused. Her defense was that the man sponsored her through school. You know it’s funny how we choose the ‘arms of flesh’ and turn our back on God. For many young people, courtship is an idol. It is the only thing they are doing without God’s consent. This lady deceived her pastor, so he joined them, for many years she could not conceive and the man went to impregnate another girl, so he could have children. Why did she not conceive? I don’t know. But one thing is sure; such people usually don’t have the confidence to go to God in prayer for the answers they desire. You can’t bar God out in the ‘rain’ and then invite Him in after the ‘rain’! You shouldn’t expect your car to move if you pour a mixture of water and petrol in the tank. Your ‘marital engine’ is sure to knock, if you cohabit with an unbeliever. The scriptures say for us to separate ourselves (2Cor. 6:17). If you want to be for God, be for Him, full time. You’re either for God or not for Him. Oswald Smith said, “God is either the Lord of all or not Lord at all”. Is God the Lord of your relationship? If you give God the totality of your life, it will help your spiritual alertness. God will be involved in your search for a life partner. He will connect you to the right man or lady. A friend of mine was to date a girl, but God knew my friend didn’t idolize the union. He was still looking up to God and asking “should I continue”? That was even a lady he found in church. In one of his prayers God revealed to him that the lady was an agent of the devil. My friend quickly backed out quietly. The lady was later revealed by God’s fire in a revival programme. She had initiated a few of the ladies in her church. If God is your focus, He will reveal wolves in church wearing sheep’s clothing to you. There are many unbelievers in church who know the doctrines, mysteries and slang – you need God to reveal such; and except you are totally yielded you may be a victim of one of such. Don’t be deceived by activities. That someone sings well does not mean he or she is a Christian. Good preaching even does not equal Christianity. You therefore require a discerning heart; that’s why you need to really be close to God. You must be spiritually alert, that’s the only way you’ll easily know dogs in the midst of the sheepfold, and the goats amidst the sheep camp. When we talk about unbelievers, please note that they are in the church as well as outside the church. Be watchful! There was this chorister in a church I once attended who dated an unbeliever. They were together for probably a few years doing all the usuals unbelievers do. One fateful day the guy decided to follow her to church. He came to church, got converted and became vibrant. A few weeks after his salvation, he called his fiancée and broke up the union. The girl was sad and questioned his decision. He told the girl in plain language that if what he has heard these few weeks is what she’s heard for years and still was dating him before his conversion it means, her Christianity has question mark. He said he has resolved never to marry any girl who won’t love God more than him. The guilt of the lady was multiplied because the guy’s words were an eye opener to her of her idolatry. The man found God and left her. ‘Be not deceived, God is not mocked, whatsoever anyone sows that he shall also reap’ (Gal. 6:7). If you think God will make something good out of your unholy alliance, you might have been ruined like Samson before then. God did make some wonderful sense out of Samson’s errors, but he was ruined. Don’t follow Samson’s example.